When a Man You Love Was Abused: A Woman’s Guide to Helping Him Overcome Childhood Sexual Molestation
When a Man You Love Was Abused: A Woman’s Guide to Helping Him Overcome Childhood Sexual Molestation
For all women who know and love a survivor of sexual assault, best-selling author Cecil Murphey has penned an honest and forthright book about helping the man in your life survive–and thrive–despite past abuses.
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Written with great compassion and understanding,
This book is long past due. The author begins this book with his own story and how he handled it. Among the topics he discusses are the flashbacks and nightmares, his anger at God, the effects the abuse had on his life, and learning to forgive the abuser and himself.
The second half of his book speaks to women and how they can help heal the men they love . Among the topics discussed: learning to accept his unspeakable problem, believe in him and help him believe in himself, let him know you care and keep reminding him, pray for him, and listen to him.
The author is quick to remind women that you can’t heal for him. This book is written with great compassion and understanding. Kudos to the author for sharing his story and for helping others to understand.
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|Honest, Hopeful, and Healing,
I’ve often heard the statement “Men, don’t tell.” in reference to childhood sexual abuse. How sad. How tragic. I needed to know why. What makes male survivors of CSA so closed-off, so alone? Why is it so hard for them to “tell”, and how can the women in their lives love and assist them as they journey toward healing? Cecil Murphey answered my questions as only a survivor who has embraced true healing could. He’s broken his silence, exposed his pain, and given me the precious gift of insight.
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|“When a Man You Love Was Abused” by Cecil Murphey,
When A Man You Love Was Abused: A Woman’s Guide to Helping Him Overcome Childhood Sexual Molestation by Cecil Murphy is written in two parts. The first part deals with his own personal horrific trauma and how he handled it over many years, as well as his compassion for men who were sexually molested/abused as children. He reaches out passionately and directly about some of the areas abused men will need to address to become whole-giving an inside peek of the male’s psyche and emotions. He’s direct about what worked for him and what didn’t. It’s not a `fix-it’ book, but instead helps men realize they aren’t alone or crazy and that healing can be reached. The One who ultimately does the healing is the Lord, and He uses many different people to accomplish the task.
A few of his topics in Part 1: Who He Is
* Who Are the Molested?
* A Personal Journey
* Where Was God?
* A theft of Childhood
* Flashbacks and Dreams
* The Effects of Abuse
* Male Self-Images
* Forgiving the Abuser/Himself
* plus 14 more topics
The second half of the Cecil’s book is directed specifically to the women in these men’s lives-how they can help him through the healing process by being there for him and encouraging him. Easy? No way! Necessary? Absolutely!
Part 2 contains some of the following:
* The Other Victim
* Accept His Unspeakable Problem
* Believe Him and Help Him Believe
* Accept His Shame
* Remind Him You Care
* Listen, Listen, Listen
* Pray for Him
* Be Honest with Him
* plus 14 more topics
Women, this is definitely a book to have on your shelf if the man in your life is struggling with childhood sexual abuse. Cecil has wise words of advice that will you help stand beside the man in your life through his healing process by encouraging him. Whether the survivor in your life is a brother, father, son, boyfriend, or husband, you will find encouragement and strength from Cecil’s book. I personally feel that the book could also be used in reverse circumstances where it’s the woman who has been abused, especially part 2.
Special thanks to Danielle Douglas of Douglas Public Relations for sending me a review copy.
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